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12 Stations through Kishimi and Koga's two Adlerian dialogues, from asking what a behaviour is for to respect, encouragement and love in practice, ending in a one-page practice for one real relationship.

We do not re-summarise The Courage to Be Disliked; it has its own road. We connect two books: the first book's Adlerian core, goals rather than causes, separating tasks and equal relationships, then The Courage to Be Happy's practice of respect, encouragement without praise or rebuke, and the decision to love. The order is a teaching order designed by BookYol, not the authors' own.

Asking what a behaviour is forSeparating your tasks from other people'sRelating as equals, without praise or rebukeRespecting people as they areChoosing your life with others

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The road, station by station

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01What Is Your Habit Getting You?
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from The Courage to Be Disliked
Today’s Station — start →
02Every problem has a person in it
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from The Courage to Be Disliked
03Whose Task Is This? Sorting What's Yours From Theirs
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from The Courage to Be Disliked
04Say the Honest Thing, Accept the Cost
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from The Courage to Be Disliked
05Equals, not ranks: trade praise for thanks
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from The Courage to Be Disliked
06Accept what you are, trust without collateral
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from The Courage to Be Disliked
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The Adlerian core, in your own life
One habit is traced to its goal and one worry to the person behind it, one situation is sorted into your tasks and theirs, one honest sentence has been said with its cost accepted, and one 'well done' has become a specific thank-you.
07Feel Useful Without Waiting for Applause
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from The Courage to Be Disliked
08Respect means seeing the person who is there
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from The Courage to Be Happy
09Behind problem behaviour, a bid for a place
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from The Courage to Be Happy
10Teach toward the day they need you less
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from The Courage to Be Happy
11Love is a decision to build a 'we'
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from The Courage to Be Happy
12Destination: choose your life with others, one relationship at a time
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from The Courage to Be Happy
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Destination: a practice for one real relationship
A one-page practice is written for one named relationship: the person as they are, the tasks sorted, one verdict replaced by encouragement, one unannounced contribution, and the sentence you will use when the old pattern returns.

Built from these books

The Courage to Be DislikedIchiro Kishimi & Fumitake Koga
The Courage to Be HappyIchiro Kishimi & Fumitake Koga

Stations are original editorial syntheses of ideas from these books — never replacements for them. If a Station earns its keep, the book deserves your shelf.

Who Ichiro Kishimi is, and how they think

This Yol is for you if…

Managers, teachers and parents who want to lead without praise, rebuke or control
Readers of The Courage to Be Disliked who want to see its ideas applied at work and at home
Anyone whose days are worn down by tangled relationships with colleagues or family

…and honestly not if

Anyone who wants The Courage to Be Disliked alone, in its own order; it has its own road
Anyone working through serious trauma, who needs professional care before a change of perspective

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